I think that this policy is fair and justified both medically and psychologically but not for all patients, especially patients. In his therapeutic work he met with such women, who are trying to drink away, but are not able to sustain its hard-suffering and even closer to him. They are also able to begin to lay the rest of life without a solution or at least mitigate that matter. What are you? Most such that as a child or adult at the start of the road - remember that women are beginning to drink heavily later than men - were dramatic events, such as sexual exploitation, violence, death of children, the removal of pregnancy. With such a deep wound treat on alcohol, often amounted to a powder or even after the drugs. I do not have a ready-made proposals, as such, patients should be treated. But I want to ask them out because I suspect that this is a category that disappears from the treatment - shall be filed, but quickly abandons them. Programs it gives priority to abstinence and at first I did not leave room for work on the earlier injury, and thus prevent the women abide in such a program. And of course it does not concern me here to promote the idea to treat these patients without discontinuation of alcohol - as we know, such treatment is simply ineffective. Nonetheless, even in the first diagnostic interviews are not paid to the special account. It seems that they need additional personal contact. These are the women who disappear at the time of the conclusion of the contract and do not appear more. Often, we regard this as a normal phenomenon: the patient was not sufficiently motivated, it must be even drink it all or not, in fact, has taken the decision to be sober. But I think that in a group, of which I speak here, not at all small, not so far: they have a desire and a decision on the sober life, but that they are unable to sustain their problems. The vast majority of the difficulties faced by other patients, is associated with the drink. I have the feeling that we - the employees outlets - we are disposed to this type of problems in accordance with the principle that the alcoholic is a man who solves his problems with alcohol emotional, the result is a growing problem and then solve them by drinking alcohol. This is the to this spring, which is a vicious cycle of addiction. It seems that for this group of patients, of whom I speak, alcohol withdrawal, without mitigating the initial acute pain Denmark or even the hope of his comfort, is in fact proposed in the key of life, which these people are no longer strong enough for that reason since reached after alcohol. I remember, for example, a woman who at the time of notification to the clinic have no doubt saw as subject, and the life situation before drinking it looked like: the husband had committed suicide for reasons of mental health services are likely, the family (including a psychologist engaged in conjugal therapy) ordered her responsibility for the death and threatened removal of children. Indeed, for a time received the right of parents, their recovery is going to fight in court. After months of sleepless nights, the sense of guilt, in total solitude you started to drink. In this situation, the first attempt of abstinence, has been widely - also unsuccessful - ended with a severe depression with strong suicidal ideation. The patient was maintained for a long time contact with me, taking several attempts to break the drinking and I feel that this was the only possible way. If so put the matter: "If you want to treat Ms, the first lady is not to drink, and without this condition, please do not come to me" - she would not handle  and probably further would drink  or over each other. Contact with the therapist and the first attempt to organize what has happened in her life, took place at a time when only take away alcohol, which is contrary to one of the basic principles of therapy that deep emotional issues are not talking at the beginning of treatment. It is still a category of patients who have similar difficulties in starting treatment. Like those women are not able to sustain the hard-painful awareness of events that became the cause of their drinking, so in these similar experiences associated with the effects of excess drinking and limit women's social norms. A married woman who does not return at night to the home, violates the basic social contract, the man who does, is a standard, man, if in a short time, "passed" 20 women, have an opinion and "libertine" and they are assessment of the frontier and the reluctance of admiration, while the woman who slept of 20 accidental partners, is a prostitute or a whore. Public perception is even more severe if the woman is the mother. When children leave the father and has no contact with them after 5 or 10 years, the public is treated with some reluctance, but when the mother left them alone or in the care of his father - in fact it denies the right to social life. It is on this note wondering dependent on the treatment of women. Often their operation during the period of drinking heavily violated social norms and their own system of values, so the woman can hardly imagine that, ever - even after the good and worthy live several years - will be able to look yourself in the face without. From my experience, that the shame of women addicts is stronger and much more paralyzed  than for men, their sense of guilt to the family is incomparably stronger. Therefore, we suggest that when a woman upon withdrawal of alcohol and only deal with addiction, we must remember that this means for her to sober confrontation with the behavior, which in our culture condemns it to death is clearly social. To see that look of contempt neighbors, and the fact that sober is for this reason only, to say it more clearly, what a view. This woman, in general, there is no longer a reference group of healthy family to give her a husband - if you are not divorced - it often bit. Virtually all were known to me bite. Drinking women are beaten at home by her husband or partner, and on They are treated somewhat as if they did not have any rights. In particular, the our patients, whose biography, or rather take , often accompanied by a deep sense that they do not have any rights to life, to happiness, and times, they asked, are reasonable and appropriate. If the woman took the children when they are in a children's home or transferred to a family man, a sense of the patient that it has any right to their lives, meet their expectations, to dignity and respect - is close to zero. Starting the treatment of such a person should pay special  look, how pretty sudden to see her life and make the balance sheet will not be a burden .